I want to first say I applaud Gospel singer James Fortune for being so transparent with his struggles, I know that can’t be easy with the entire world looking and some judging. It is obvious that 2 Corinthians 12:9 is working in his life ( And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.) based off a powerful Periscope from last Wednesday night, where the Grammy nominated and Gospel recording artist openly talked about his past, his demons and his healing process.
In an earlier Periscope Fortune shared that he was on his way to his class and that later that evening, even though he was told “not to talk about it”, that he would talk about his class concerning anger management. Those who checked back in with him later are glad they did as he shared information from his class.
“My controlling behavior is what I have been dealing with,” says Fortune as he read the responses from those who joined him on his Periscope.
Fortune said that for the past 18 months, he has been in therapy and has learned a lot. He talked about Domestic Violence and said that he would also be sharing his thoughts about the different types of domestic violence in hope of helping someone else. He was very candid about addressing his past mistakes and how he is learning how to deal with his issues, as he is hoping his conversation might help someone else.
“There are 18 forms of Domestic abuse and only one of them is Physical,” says Fortune. He went on to talk about some of the different types of abuse, adding “some of you may have been dealing with this and may not even know it.”
“I’m not ashamed but I’m just exposing the enemy.” He said, “Domestic Violence is more about power and control, its not just about physical violence. I struggle with control and that’s what I was dealing with. When you can’t control someone, then you feel as though you are losing control. Jesus said to be angry, but don’t sin. We don’t talk about this in the church.”
As he wrapped up, he said “There are four things we need to initially look at to begin the healing process. You can’t change what you are not willing to confront. So take responsibility for whatever your problem is.”
Here are the first four things Fortune said needs to be addressed when you are dealing with anger and domestic abuse.
1) Stop blaming other people. You can’t say, someone did this to me, so I did this to them. You will never get free if you don’t. You are responsible for your thoughts, feelings and actions”
2) Stop denying the situation. Denial always involves lying. Admit you have a problem instead of saying you don’t have a problem.
3) Stop minimizing your issues and trying to make it less than what it really is
4) Stop trying to justify your actions when you know you are trying to control someone.
As he wrapped up his conversation, Fortune says, “Talking about this is so much better than hiding it or justifying it. I’m FREE and God is giving me the strength to become a stronger and better person.” (AMEN!)
He closed with a powerful prayer and for those who are in abusive situations and prayed for their Freedom and Restoration as well.
Let the Church say Amen