Former pastor’s wife, Lydia Meredith has opened up in an interview with Rolling Out about how her life was affected when her husband, Reverend Dennis A. Meredith, came out as gay.
The two divorced in 2008 after they struggled over his infidelity while they were married, but they have remained on good terms. However, she admitted that it took her years to recover after her husband left her to be with a man.
“I trusted my husband,” Lydia Meredith reveals during an interview with rolling out. She recently penned a deeply personal memoir, The Gay Preacher’s Wife: How My Gay Husband Deconstructed My Life and Reconstructed My Faith.
Lydia was married to Reverend Dennis A. Meredith, who is now an openly gay pastor and leading a congregation of over 1K members—predominantly lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender. She and the pastor divorced in 2008, but remain close friends despite the fact that they struggled with his infidelity during their marriage.
When asked if she missed all the signs that her former husband was gay, she said, “Yes, I miss[ed] them. I am not a tracker. There are some women who are investigators, who will pick up the phone if their [mate] is not home at a certain time and if they are not calling. That’s a problem. I am a professional woman working as a senior engineer for a Fortune 500 company. I was living my life, married with three children.”
While she was living her life, she also missed the signs that her middle son, who is now the minister of music at the church where his father ministers, is also gay.
Lydia emphasizes, “The church needs a new kind of ministry–one steeped in the ministry started by Jesus–free of bias, discrimination, hate or prejudice.